You're right of course. And you might even know someone maybe even yourself who was sexually abused as a child or as a teenager.
Others have told their stories (you can read them below). So why not tell YOUR story (you can use a made up name if you like just as Fr. Mike did) because...
the victims reactions to sex abuse take many different forms...from post traumatic stress disorder to complete denial.
Everyone knows that many adults who suffered adolescent sexual abuse also suffered ongoing emotional abuse. However...
In Fr. Mike's case it was his good judgment that was traumatized.
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Until then...Father Mike
was a well-loved priest with a passion for
And he worked tirelessly for the rights of the poor and the marginalized people of developing countries.
Naturally...the people who loved and revered Father Mike were devastated...and felt betrayed...when his sexual history became known.
During his mandatory evaluation...Father Mike explained his actions this way...
He had an ongoing sexual affair when he was a teenager with his pastor.
Father Mike said that he felt very good about the experience at the time...and still does.
He did not find it traumatic...he loved the priest with whom he was involved...and bears neither him nor the church any ill will.
The unfortunate thing was that Father Mike decided to have...as he said..."a ministry to the sexual awakening of teenagers".
He felt that his sexual experiences with his own pastor were very good for him...and "he wanted to pass the benefits he got from it on to adolescents in his ministry".
Father Mikes adolescent sex abuse may have been pleasurable...but even poisonous mushrooms can taste good.
Though Father Mike was not emotionally traumatized he really suffered ongoing effects of the abuse because...
It led to seriously impaired judgments in adulthood...that lost Fr. Mike his priesthood...his ministry...his good name...and the chance to contribute whatever good was in him through ministry.
Other victims do have emotional trauma from adolescent sexual abuse ...others have difficulties in their self-image...or difficulty relating to others...and some former victims are always angry but don't know why.
Below is an invitation to share your story to increase people's awareness of what you and other victims go through. You can be anonymous, you can use just a first name, or you can use a different name. (Though we would find it helpful to know what country you're from.)
Share your story! You're not alone. Let others know what the effects of adolescent sexual abuse were in your life (e.g. Loss of faith? Fear of intimacy? Difficulty sustaining relationships? Weight gain or loss? Counseling others? etc.) Then if you can, offer some advice and encouragement to help others by sharing whether you've been able to do anything to lessen any negative effects your abuse had on you.
Click below to see how other visitors to this page have had to cope, and have coped, with the effects of adolescent sexual abuse...
Through Gods Eyes Only
I was a victim at age 5 and my mom did not believe me. Then at age 19 before I had my child I spoke to my mom again about the abuse by my stepfather. Mom …
A Shy Sexually Abused Adolescent
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You may deepen your understanding about what the real abuse is by going from this adolescent sexual abuse page to read the effects of child abuse.
From here you may also return to the christian youth ministry page.
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