You may have heard the terms...
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As you read further and your understanding widens you may be surprised to find you already had an idea of the answer. Because it is no secret that
And as you recognize this simple fact
you understand that is why some ministers in Christian youth ministry are strictly interested in pre-teen pedophiles...emotionally arrested children dwelling in an adult body.
But some ministers prefer children with but who are not yet emotionally and socially adults. These are ephebophiles...emotionally arrested adolescents dwelling in an adult body.
And as your understanding increases you may find your head shaking in wonder at this paradox
And so this gives us a clue about why are they attracted to minors.
As you will recognize immediately
Pedophiles and ephebophiles in ministry have easy ongoing even daily access to children and youths.
And because ministry is so loosely defined...or not defined at all...(except by us on our homepage)...) they can have private access to minors in a variety of activities such as counseling and spiritual direction.
Kids are simply widely available in ministry.
The pediatrician or the juvenile judge has appointment-only access to children and adolescents...who are usually in the company of a parent or an attorney.
And kids are often afraid of doctors and judges.
So you can see that someone with such highly specialized sexual preferences as pedophiles and ephebophiles have would be drawn to nearly limitless opportunities for potential friends in Christian youth ministry...which makes child and especially adolescent sexual abuse easily accomplished by sex offenders in ministry.
The rigid sexual boundaries that pedophiles and ephebophiles have actually increase the extent of sexual abuse in a victim's life long after the fact.
The child may be very attached to this 'caring' and "kind' abuser. But as development begins the pedophile terminates the relationship abruptly. The child ceases to have meaning for the abuser.
The now cast aside...abandoned...and emotional betrayed child believes long after the fact that such emotional upset is an important result of intimate relationships. Such abusive relationships may cause serious relationship problems in adolescence and in adulthood.
In addition, the abandoned child has no social support group for such emotional turmoil like the adolescent does.
Because the maturing child no longer has any redeeming qualities for the abuser...who originally was so caring...
You can probably agree that prepubertal children abandoned by a seemingly caring adult would be having an experience they are not ready for.
When a girlfriend or a boyfriend ends a relationship an adolescent will learn about such things
The pedophile has no boundary problem just saying no when the victim begins to mature.
Ephebophiles fixated on adolescents are semi-adult in their sexual interest. They too are interested in physical traits but not in a meaningful emotional and social context that mature sexual relationships have.
You can see the obvious
Once the youth begins to have more adult experiences the ephebophile will lose interest and seek newer younger partners.
By now you can see that fixated pedophiles and ephebophiles are themselves emotional children and adolescents.
And what happens when an adolescent becomes their own abuser through pornography addiction?Supervise your own ministry to see if your relationships are ministerial or personal.
Or you can...