How Can Your Core Values
Destroy Your Ministry?

If your core values are the deepest and finest things about you...how can they harm you...and others...and even destroy your ministry?

To answer that question you need to know

• ...the nature of such values


• ...how they are different from other values


• ...how you can express them in destructive ways

A value...including a core value...is...a strong desire...either to keep something we cherish...or to get something we yearn for.

It's that simple.

So let's contrast something like professional values and personal values with core values.

In our set of personal values...we may want to keep our health...so we exercise. Or we may want to get better health...so we cut sugar from our diet.

On the other hand...our professional values...what we want to get or keep...reflect how we want to make our contribution and be remembered.

For example an actress may want to...get...an important part to...keep...her name in lights and also make a contribution to dramatic art...for which she will be remembered. Think of Vivien Leigh in Gone With The Wind...an unforgettable classic.

So the interplay between getting and keeping something is clear.

Except there is an important difference when it comes to core values

The difference is critical and explains how your fundamental values can undermine a ministry...by creating psychological disorders.

Hard to believe...but you'll see in a minute how it's done.

That means the actress devises conscious strategies and takes calculated action to achieve what she wants to keep or get...her value.

But core values...are different because they operate unconsciously. Most people have to discover them within themselves...which is possible.

You can see this in people who are struggling in their lives. Ask them "what is it that you really want...what's missing that would make set your life aglow?"

Most of the time they'll give you a conscious personal or professional value ("I want to lose weight for my wedding day"..."I want a better job").

Also people who do 'strange' or 'dumb' things are often confusing to themselves and to other people. Ask them why they do those things and they'll say "I don't know what makes me do that."

Nine out of ten times...there is an unconscious core value trying to express itself...with an incongruent strategy.

Nearly every minister sent for evaluation and treatment for violating sexual boundaries thought their actions were ministerial!

Unbelievable? Here's an example...

A religious sister developed a ministry to heal sexually abused women of the effects of the abuse. Her strategy...to fulfill her deep desire to heal others...was to hold the women in her arms and caress them intimately. That's an example of a noble fundamental value violating boundaries...with sexual battery as the means to fulfill it. Her ministry was destroyed.

With conscious values...we can constantly check and see if our actions are leading us to fulfillment or not.

The unconscious mind doesn't know a lot about what effect you're having on the outside world. So...

With unconscious values...we lose the ability to check to see if our actions are congruent. The only way to do that is to make them conscious.

For examples of two ministers who have the same fundamental value...where one is successful and one is not...you can go from this core values page to the ethics and core values page . Or if you have a question about core values and boundaries you can ask it below. We promise you a speedy reply.

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