It is a clinical given that the effects of child sex abuse are often (but not always) emotionally traumatic.
But if you have read the story of Father Mike and adolescent sexual abuse you are beginning to deepen your understanding that...the effects of child abuse are not just traumatic emotional symptoms...when they can include a 'ministry' to the awakening of teenage sexuality.
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You may remember from your own adolescence that your peer group taught you things about relationships that you didnt learn at home or in classrooms.
For example if you developed normally in the peer group you learned...
Without even realizing it you absorbed many things from the guidance of your adolescent peer group...
Like all the subtle rules and rituals about how to be a sexual person living in a social group.
...And how important it is that your relationships are appropriately public. Because abusive relationships are always a dark secret and never see the light of day unless they are dragged into it.
When a teenager learns about romance from some adult like a minister he or she is removed from the many important emotional and social influences of the peer group which is a training ground for adulthood.
This getting-to-know-you fun time would not be taking place if either of them was missing from their peer group...and involved secretly with an adult.
And you might smile when you realize that their best friends would give them immediate feedback about their behavior such as
And so the social training for adult sexuality by the peer group goes on in exquisite detail day after day.
You may understand now the serious effects of child abuse and why so many sexually abused people grow up confused and untrained in how to begin and take part in happy healthy relationships.
They were deprived of the training in the social skills necessary for intimate adult relationships...training that can only be gotten in the adolescent peer group.
The adult abuser prevents the peer group from having such good and necessary influence on the adolescent.
Those are the ongoing effects of child abuse
It is not uncommon to hear people in therapy say they have no trouble attracting people they just cant seem to keep a relationship going because...
Now you have deepened your understanding and know it is the teenagers isolation from his or her peers during a period of intense social development and peer training that is the real effect of child abuse in adolescent sexual abuse.
This isolation from good peer influence also occurs when the adolescent him- or herself is their own abuser...which is the case in pornography addiction.
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