Pastor assumes

by Rich
(Phoenix, AZ)

My wife took two of our grandkids to church, where we are members.
My grandaughter, 14, was walking my grandson, 5, from the nursery after church (they are cousins). The new pastor walked up and stated
"we don't do teen moms at this church".

My grandaughter has had typical teen problems, and church has always helped keep her on the right track. This remark hurt her badly.

How can a pastor, who is college educated, and supposedly intelligent, make such a stupid assumption?

What if one was a teen mom? Isn't it the mission of the church to minister to all, especially those who need it the most?

This has destroyed our confidence in the new church leader; if this is how his mind works what will be next?

We really don't need an answer, we know what to do; just wanted to see if others have had similar experiences.

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Pastor assumes
by: Dr. Thomas

The pastor's scurrilous conclusion about your grand daughter is not to be taken lightly. The bible has a good deal to say about presumption, none of it good.

The pastor's remark has a lot of different qualities to it in addition to its genuine unkindness.

1. If he said it in front of others, it is slander — a slur on your grand daughter's moral character.

2. It is really an accusation because he spoke as if his presumption was a fact.

3. The pastor arrogantly implies that the other congregants would have the same reaction to your granddaughter — "We don't do teen moms..."

4. His contempt also extends to the younger child presumably because he rejects "teen moms" he also rejects the child of someone he thinks is a teen mom.

Even pastors need forgiveness if they repent.

So, you might ask your grand daughter if she could forgive him if he apologized. If yes, then you might let the pastor know that she would forgive him if he asked her to. (This would be a lesson in forgiveness for both of them).

Also, if he made his remark in public where others heard him, he should apologize in public (if he wants to ask forgiveness).

If he does not want to ask forgiveness for his hurtful mistake, then you might question his ability to be a spiritual guide for your family.

Feel free to ignore these suggestions. I'm just offering the way I would handle it. You apparently have you own plan of what to do.

Feel free to let us know how it turns out.

All the best.

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